July 20, 2015

Rome: Vatican Museum

Our itinerary in Rome included a tour to the Vatican Museum. We were a bit nervous beforehand, thinking back to the crowded Louvre from a prior trip. Would it be enjoyable, or would we suffocate and get trampled on? To prepare, we watched a Khan Academy video about the Sistine Chapel to arm each child with hope and anticipation as we worked through the route. One of my favorite sights was the Hall of Maps, where walls were adorned with paintings of regional topography. The details were rich and enticing (even the font on the maps!). The Hall of Tapestries was no less amazing, or the statues from ancient Greece like the Belvedere Torso

A remarkable lasting impression was from the courtyard - a modern juxtaposition or "a sphere within a sphere". Check it out here! The tour ends with a 15 minute window to experience the Sistine Chapel in silence. No talking or photographs allowed. We were enraptured with the Last Judgement by Michelangelo on the first wall. Looking up at the story of creation is a gripping experience. The view was worth the effort. 

July 8, 2015

Rome: The Colosseum

Our first major stop in Rome was the Colosseum. On a tip from a Rick Steve's Guide to buy tickets at the Forum entrance, we avoided lines and strolled the Forum ruins before entering. The view was remarkable and the late afternoon sunlight hit the Colosseum at various dramatic angles. We took our time and circumnavigated both levels, quietly imagining what a roaring crowd would have sounded like 2,000 years ago. It's crowded for a reason, because it's nothing less than awesome. If you are interested in the structure and history, I recommend the Khan Academy Smart History videos.

June 13, 2015

The Recital

She started ballet "late", at 9 years old instead of 2. But she worked hard for over a year, faithfully attending class, stretching, dancing, and thinking about all things ballet. And now she is promoted into the level that catches her up with her age group. And when I see her on stage, I don't just see my girl anymore, I also see someone who just loves to dance. 

June 8, 2015

Sugar Pine Point State Park

Nestled on the west side of Lake Tahoe between Emerald Bay and Tahoe City is one of my new favorite places. It's so cool that I almost hesitate to write about it so I can keep it to myself. We decided to camp here for our first weekend of summer. Have you heard of Sugar Pine Point State Park? I hadn't, but I'm glad to finally be introduced. Large camp sites, plenty of privacy, lots of forests, a maze of bike trails, no crowds, and clear blue lakefront all added up to a very enjoyable weekend in the outdoors. We entertained ourselves by exploring the local creek, freeing a rainbow trout, paddle boarding, badminton, and tandem bike riding. Summer has arrived!

May 31, 2015

Middle School Transition

The first year of middle school was a transitional year for our daughter. It was the first year she received letter grades for academic work. It was the first year her circle of friends grew more defined. It was also the first year she grew as tall as her own mother! This dynamic tide of changes prompted me to slow down and tune in to her world, so we could navigate the year successfully. If I were to chat over coffee with a fellow mom, here are some observations I would share about incoming middle schoolers.

Importance of downtime

By sixth grade, extracurricular activities are ramping up. More children (at least in the Bay Area) are opting for year-round club sports instead of seasonal recreation leagues. Skill levels are increasing so much that it almost feels like 11 and 12 year olds are professional athletes, musicians, academics and performers. This type of environment is tough to keep up with, for both parents and students alike.

Such a competitive pace can take a negative toll. Early in the year, my daughter mentioned how she almost felt like an employee, being on the go from 8am to after 7pm each day. I will never forget that moment, and knew things had to change immediately. For the remainder of the year, we adjusted priorities with enough space and freedom for her to feel like the child (and not the employee) she really was. Where possible, days were calibrated to support downtime based on the week’s homework load and commitments.

No bossing around

I have a leftover tendency from the early years to tell the kids what to do. Middle schoolers may not appreciate this. They are at an age where developing independence is more important than following arbitrary mom-rules. Many times when I tried to tell my daughter what to do, she would (expectedly) resist. On the contrary, when I changed my tone and asked how I could be helpful, she engaged. Our relationship flowed more easily once we realized we were on the same team. And with all of the work middle school required, teamwork was a must!

Good work habits can help improve grades

Middle school is the first year of letter grades and Honor Roll in our school district, and keeping the grades up required hard work and focused effort.

Midway through the first trimester we logged onto the grading portal and were met with some surprise. My husband and I were used to the early (non-graded) years when the kids did well enough by being left on autopilot. But for middle school, autopilot didn’t seem to be working, and the stakes were slightly higher.

After tuning in more closely to the assignments, we realized it wasn’t academic capability causing the issue, but project management skills (i.e., keeping track of stuff, keeping it neat, keeping it on schedule). We did things like clean out the notebook, fortify the pencil pouch, and pay attention to the calendar. We touched base regularly on the progress reports. We emphasized that she engage with teachers directly to better understand directions and expectations. We offered to read essays for spelling errors - you know, the little stuff. Finally, we encouraged her not to ignore extra credit. When the grade is borderline, extra credit can be an excellent opportunity for improvement.

Understand the difference between best friends and true friends

During the the year, social circles seemed to form clearly defined boundaries, and different circles could at times initiate friction. On occasion where personalities in the grade started clashing, I voiced to my daughter that she does not need to feel tied down on any “sides” of friends’ disputes. Rather, using supportive skills of diplomacy can establish a sense of independence and lead to true friendships over time.

This year was both awesome and challenging. I’m glad I was able to help get it off the ground. But now, maybe I can tune into a few of my own issues. If you have any comments on the middle school transition, I’d love to hear from you.